Don't know if I'm just paranoid but...?

(okay i'll use fake names for now 'cos i don't want to say their real ones!)


The more I hang out with my friends the more paranoid I get. It's not that I think everyone is talking about me..but I feel as if I'm boring and some don't really like me. I have a group of friends, and they all prefer to talk to each other rather than me. Only 3 of them are really close to me, but one of them is very unreliable towards me.





Sharon sometimes gives me the impression she isn't interested in me. The other day she asked if me and Rose wanted to go to her house, but she rang and cancelled it because Rose couldn't make it because she was grounded. I suggested we just meet up anyway, and she seemed so unkeen if it was just me and her, and she rang me back later and said the day has moved to Friday. And I know for a fact if I couldn't make it to her house one day and Rose was still going, she wouldn't cancel the day.





I know it sounds stupid but it hurts. My friends mean so much to me.plzhelp

Don't know if I'm just paranoid but...?
You never mentioned how long you have known each other or if rose introduced you to these other girls.if you are feeling paranoid because you think they are talking about you that isn't paranoid, that is your gut feeling girl, and you are probably right in thinking they are talking about you. If you feel uninvolved its because they don't want to involve you. they are not true friends, a true friend would involve you and stick by you not freeze you out, confront them tell them what you feel see what they say, If it were me i wouldnt continue trying to be liked i would get rid and find a friend that you can trust, these lot are 5year old still get away from them you are to mature for the likes of themthey may mean alot to you but its obvious by your letter they don't care if you exist or not.it will be hard at first and you will hurt, but there is always something better waiting around the corner its up to you to go and find it. Join a club or involve yourself with other groups in your area, you'll be amazed at how many people you will get to know and can call a friend.
Reply:jerks
Reply:Maybe you should reconsider who your "friends" are.
Reply:I know things like your friends putting you off may hurt you and they probably should you are a teen, but what you should do is find other hobbies that you can do on your own get into something that your passionate about and and that situation with your friends wont seem that important. Don't talk about it to any of your other friends because then it will turn into something its not. It may seem hard but believe me it works.
Reply:Time to make new friends
Reply:im not going 2 answer the paroniod part but u have a probalm 1st off dont change urslf to meet this chicks standerds and have a liitle gatyhering with ur freiends talk about how u feel it the best way to realy find out wats happaning best of luck! Happy 07
Reply:I know that feeling. Just sit them down and let them know what's going on. These sort of problems always happen when you ALLOW them too. Don't let them stand you up like that and make you feel out of place; tell them how you feel. As close friends, they need a wake-up call!
Reply:talk to your friends about it. tell them it's bothering you. if you want to see a change in them tell them. and if they don't respect your feelings maybe they never were truly your friends.
Reply:Dont put all your eggs in one basket. THEy will hurt you.
Reply:if they were youre true frieds they wouldnt be doing that. trust..move on uve got other friends who are willing to be there for you. if ure not willing try to talk to her sort out youre problems...ask her wot she dislikes about you so that you can brush up. remember life moves to fast so make the most of it. dont waste ure time on worthless ppl spend time with those who will give u somat in return
Reply:Young people use the term "friends" too flippantly. I was popular in high school (ten years ago) and still live close to my hometown. I don't talk to anyone from those days. My best advise is to move on and learn to forget the trivial things.
Reply:Hi, these girls are not friends and i have been in your situation when i was at school and all i did was get hurt. These girls where so mean, one girl would stir stuff just to make us fall out. Then like you say they invite other ones of your friends out and not you. My so called friends used to say to me they werent going out and then the next day i will find that they have, or they would have sleep overs and not tell me. Its not because they didnt like me they just never wanted to be friends with me. I dont know why they are like this with somepeople. I think sometimes its jelously theres not reason for it. Ive asked them loads of times ands they just used to laugh at me. In the end i stopped speaking to all of them. Then they came over and said they wanted to continue speaking, but there all were spitful, vindictive bitches and your friends dont deserve you i bet your there for them and they through it back in your face.


Make some new friends you will be alot happier and i no it will be hard at first, but i had to brake friends with them as it made me change as a person and i became depressed and i wouldnt wish that on you as you sound upset now. There plenty of more friends out there for you. I had to get over my confidance fear of talking to people so i did and made new friends.
Reply:why dont you just ask your friends out right if they like you or not and if you have done anything to offend them, Especially this sharon girl!
Reply:I know exactly how your feeling right now that happened to me when i was in school. They are just jealous vindictive girls who don't really care for many peoples feelings. If i was you i would stay away from the bitchy lot otherwise your situation may become worse and they will begin to play and hurt you even more. Don't run around after them that's wot they want you to do there seeing how far you will go to please them and that's not fun on your behalf. Stay strong and true to yourself you are who you are and never change that just to impress anyone. Tuff on them if they don't like you as long as you know your a great person and your good friends do too then who needs people like them trying to dictate who you are and what you shall be or do. Your an individual with your own thoughts and beliefs never change that.





Good luck and take care of yourself :-)
Reply:i agree with chaney and by ur story ur giving the impression of a follower to ur friends